It is unavoidable…if you do anything productive with your life, (I pray you do) you will come to a point where you have to make a really hard decision. They hard thing about the decision is that typically you will have a list of pro’s and con’s on both sides. Sometimes there will be more pro’s and sometimes more con’s and especially when there are more con’s on both sides of the decision this makes it even more difficult.
However, you will get nowhere by procrastinating on the decision. Waiting is just giving into the fear of being wrong, and possibly making the worse decision. So, how do we handle this? How do we make the best decision and still move forward?
Here is a little trick. One of the reasons the decision is so hard is because we are battling our minds back and forth. We look at the benefits of one decision and then the other….we can’t choose and this causes more distress in our bodies and minds. Our emotions get involved and then we become exhausted from a mental arm wrestling match….#%$!@#. You drop a cuss word or two.
The good news is, that the stress and worry of making this decision can be reduced and even eliminated. You can choose one or the other confidently and here is how.
1. First, you need to ask people that you respect, what they would do. Lay out all the cards on the table for both situations and ask for their opinion. Normally, I would do this with someone that specializes in a field that is associated with that decision. For example, about a year ago I was participating in an online contest to speak at a conference. This speaking engagement would have been huge for my PR, and business….for many people I spoke with, it was a no brainer to continue on. I would probably have won the contest and I was torn whether it would be the best thing for me at the moment. There was one last person I wanted to speak to about this. It was a friend of mine who was a successful online entrepreneur and had been in my situation before….his reply ‘drop out of the contest’. He told me about his experience and said that I would be happier in the long-run.
This leads us to the next step:
2. Second, you have to take some time away from all the noise and clear your mind. Some people say, sleep on it. You can sleep, meditate, visualize, pray, take a walk, watch a movie, listen to music or exercise. Whatever you do, just get your mind on something else.
3. Make the decision. When you complete the first 2 steps, the last step will be, to make your choice. I guarantee there is one decision that you will be a bit more confident in making. I like to ask myself this question:
‘If I did know what to do, what would I do?’ That question really works wonders.
A bold life will require bold decisions. Walk confidently with your choice.
BONUS TIP: It is important to keep in mind, that no matter how tough and exhausting the decision might be, it is probably not as bad as many have it in the world. We are probably not deciding whether or not to sell our children into slavery, or to choose whether or not to go to West Africa and fight Ebloa. Remembering what we are grateful for will always help clear our minds of what is really important. All of us have something in this world to be grateful for.
When you make your decision, stand by it. You did it for a reason and you know why you made it.
Share your tough decisions below and let us know what are some of the choices you are struggling with.